If one is to live not as a victim but as doer and creator of one's life then everything one sees, hears, tastes, touches, or in any way experiences would be one’s responsibility because it is one’s life. The problem would not be with our reality or what we are experiencing, it would be with ourselves. To change our Reality friends, we have to change ourselves.
Ho'oponopono shows us how we can take Total Responsibility for our life and for the fact that everything exists as a projection from inside the human being. Creating your life and assuming Total responsibility doesn’t mean that you deny the reality of the consciousness of others. Instead it views all consciousness as part of the whole, so any error that a person clears in their own consciousness would be cleared for everyone